I have read a lot of stories about how amazing the mission field is and how much joy the Lord brings when you are doing what he has called you to do. Very few articles are written about how hard serving as a missionary can be on your marriage. I want to share an article with you because I think it applies not only to those of us who are called to missions in a foreign field but also to those of us called to a local mission field. The truth is that the things we fill our lives with change our marriage for the better or for the worse. Stress, time management, outside relationships, extended family, and children are a part of all of our lives. How we choose to deal with these things can strengthen our marriages or build great wedges between spouses.
God made us to worship him and to use our marriages to glorify his name. When we are intentional about our relationship with God, our relationships with each other fall closely behind. When Tony and I got married, many people told us marriage is work. Early in our marriage we were taught that during most conflicts, both parties are right and wrong. This means that both sides have sin to repent of and forgiveness to hand out. This is hard WORK. It requires dying to the “I am right and you are wrong attitude,” and pulling the planks out of our own eyes to examine them first. When I can see my sin and forgive my husband of his, then we can have a real conversation and love each other well. It takes lots of practice. Handling conflict well in our marriage relationship is glorifying to God and shows the little eyes that are watching us that perfection is not the goal; repentance and faith is.
Take some time today to read this article and pray through your relationship with God and how it is affecting your relationship with your spouse.
Therefore be imitators of God as dear children. And walk in love, as Christ also has loved us and given Himself for us, an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweet-smelling aroma. Ephesians 5:1-2