Tony spoke at my brother’s wedding this past weekend. He knocked it out of the park as the best man. For all of you who heard it and for those that didn't, here are his notes:
In the beginning, God created heaven and earth, and then he started to create things. He made plants and animals and he said they were good. He made mountains and valleys, and he said they were good. Then he made a man, but God didn’t say he was good. He sees the man alone is not complete. God said that this is not good. So, God took from Adam a rib, and with that rib, he made Eve. And Adam said, “This is really good.” Both God and Adam realized that day that a man by himself is not good. He needs a wife. And so it says in Genesis two, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”
At first glance, this seems straight forward enough. We all recognize that men need women but God does not leave it there. In Ephesians five, Paul references this passage while speaking of the duty of a husband and his wife, but he adds a twist. Starting in verse 29, “For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, 30 because we are members of his body. 31 “Therefore, a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. 33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.”
Do you see what he says? The mystery of love and marriage is profound, because it is not really about a husband and a wife; it is about Christ and the church. You see, Nathan, Katie, you stand here today and say these vows and you will be given a profound responsibility and a great joy. In marriage, you are caught up in the meta-narrative of the universe.
Christ, seeing that the people were unable to help themselves, left the glories of heaven and came to earth to fulfill in himself the holy requirements that man cannot keep and then he took the punishment we deserve, all so that the church, his bride would be glorified, beautiful and perfect. What Christ did for us was amazing. He put us first, and he gave his life for us. He gave us kindness even when we didn’t deserve it.
Nathan and Katie, love each other this way.
Nathan, love Katie the way Christ loved his church. Give yourself for her, put her first, give, respond to her with kindness even when she doesn’t deserve it, let her win arguments even when you know you are right, and let her have the remote control. Nathan, make it your life goal that Katie would only know acceptance and happiness.
Katie, love Nathan the way the church loves Christ. Give yourself for him, put him first, give, respond to him with kindness even when he doesn’t deserve it, let him win arguments even when you know you are right, and let him have the remote control. Katie, make it your life goal that Nathan would only know acceptance and happiness.
And as you each depart from your individual lives, and as you set aside your own personal goals for the sake of a happy family, an amazing thing will happen-a miracle, really-as you compete to outdo each other in your love, you will be caught up in an amazing love story that will be bigger than sum of two individuals. You will be a family… and two will become one.